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Advice for Future Corpses and Those Who Love ThemSallie Tisdale offers a thought provoking yet practical perspective on death and. Everything you always wanted to know about dying mostly Interesting yes And a great tonic for those of you into denial and delay you get D for effort It suffered a bit from some repetition yes And the part about Tisdale being Buddhist didn't get as much attention as I wished But the cool part came in the final chapters especially about what happens to your body in the final hours and what happens to your body once it has crossed and gee I wish there were an exclusive chapter on euphemisms and what you must and must not do when you are a caretaker helping a loved one during herhis final monthsweeksdayshoursminutesIt's good to know at least that you do not need a funeral home's services And that you can fire doctors who work for you remember If you want to be cremated your corpse can go direct say to a crematorium without passing GO er STOP and paying 250 er 25000 And there's a look at the newfangled latest composting yourself among other ways to dispense with bodies as well as a glance at what various cultures do with them though it's not exhaustiveThe best part are the appendices Checklists uestions key info for your loved ones and mostly you Think about it Fill it out It's your life It's your death Which is part of your life so think about your poor body The legacy an abstraction is a lifetime in the making but the body is real and needs to be dealt with the way YOU want it dealt with One hopes

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Ive care she provides a frank direct and compassionate meditation on the inevitab. Well this made me think about death even than I usually do but I found Tisdale's thoughts on it and on the process of dying to be helpful and sometimes illuminatingI have no doubt that all of this would resonate even with someone either suffering from a terminal illness or helping someone else through the last stages of their life but even from my relatively fortunate angle this provoked me to consider and sometimes reconsider what I think makes a good death what role a funeral plays what body disposal techniue would suit me and what the cultural environmental and personal impacts of various end of life practices are I don't think I'll reread this but it was a solidly good thing to have ruminated over all this There's a lot I didn't know the low bar for something to legally ualify as hospice the difference between hospice care and palliative care that there's a new techniue that will freeze your body and then vibrate it into ice crystals Sold Something that Tisdale uietly and persistently evokes is that there's no simple answer to any of this You can have a bad death at home surrounded by your family what happens if you don't want to be surrounded by your family If their love makes it hard for you to actually take the necessary step of dying and a good death in a hospital Bodies decay or are suirm inducingly destroyed and that's unavoidable no matter how you choose to have yours gotten rid of You can think you know exactly how someone you love wants to die and you could be entirely wrong about that and maybe in a way that would have hurt themThere really is a practicality at the heart of a lot of this Tisdale lays out pros and cons of different practices includes the emotional aspects in that calculation and explains her own reactions The clarity of those sections even when what's being made clear is ultimately that this is all impossibly ambiguous made them my favorites For me the parts where Tisdale talks about how to interact with the dying were less helpful in part because it all seemed to boil down to just let them do and say what they want and by the way 95% of the things you'll want to say will be wrong and unhelpful Some of it was obvious but concrete and sadly still necessary don't tell someone their loved one's death is God's will or the result of their karma but some of it gets into a kind of amorphous nitpicky vagueness that to me seemed to be making an impossible demand for the caretaking person to foresee all possible reactions to every word out of their mouth This got a little repetitive after a while because these particular issues never really changedBut the practical side of things is genuinely helpful because it makes you consider issues you might as well start resolving with your loved ones now finding out what they want working out what you want The death plan and guidelines on advance directives in the back were particularly helpful in that regard I didn't find as much profundity here as many reviewers did but I still found plenty to value

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Advice for Future Corpses and Those Who Love Them Free read · 5 ✓ Sallie Tisdale offers a thought provoking yet practical perspective on death and dying Informed by her many years working as a nurse with than a decade in palliative care she provides a frank direct and compassionate meditation on the inevitableDying Informed by her many years working as a nurse with than a decade in palliat. An excellent addition to the shelf of life and the challenges thereof somewhere between 'How Can I Help' and Montaigne's essays between Elizabeth Kubler Ross and Ram Dass an examination both personal and philosophical If the factual information about the process of dying the funeral business and its options palliative care vs hospice care there is also the for me moving and valuable discussion of 'the good death' one that upsets our commonly held notions and challenges us to reimagine and often surprisingly reassures us about those final months weeks and days through the extensive time she has had to consider her own impressions as a palliative care nurse as a Buddhist and simply as a person with a certain amount of time on this earth She writes beautifully and I love the way this book is balanced between the practical and the philosophical insights for us in our various life roles which include being the dying person the loved ones the caregiver the visitor the well wisher and the physicians Here's a bit on the subject of 'the good death' which for me was the most valuable theme of the bookTo provide a good death the caregivers must do for 'for' the patient not 'to' the patient She is not a disease or a collection of symptoms or a problem needing a solution I was really annoyed by an essay by an obviously young neurologist who write that hospice doctors are 'the artists of death' No my friend The dying person is the artist of his or her death