read doc ☆ The Fine Art of Small Talk How to Start a Conversation Keep it Going Build Networking Skills and Leave a Positive Impression Hardcover Ö debra fine

reader The Fine Art of Small Talk How to Start a Conversation Keep it Going Build Networking Skills and Leave a Positive Impression

read doc ☆ The Fine Art of Small Talk How to Start a Conversation Keep it Going Build Networking Skills and Leave a Positive Impression Hardcover Ö debra fine ´ Nationally recognized communication expert Debra Nationally recognized communication expert Debra Fine reveals the techniues and strategies anyone can use to make small talk in any situation Do you spend an abnormal amount of time hiding out in the bathroom or hanging out at the buffet table at social gatherings? Doe Like many people I can't stand small talk or icebreakers and I generally avoid social situations in which these skills are necessary I recently returned from a vacation on which I had pledged that I'd try to be better at talking to random people and I entirely failed on that goal I never seem to sit next to a chatty Kathy on an airplane I don't strike up conversations with locals at bars or restaurants If I am approached by someone in these situations my default reaction is usually to be defensive instead of open I shoot back one word responses and don't ask open ended uestions because I usually don't want to speak with the person beyond that A man that works in my building told me I needed to smile the other day and I'm still harboring resentment toward him days later for that comment I know he's from an older generation and probably means well but it's 2018 Don't say thatA lot of the conversation topics and ideas in this book seem incredibly robotic and unnatural to even say I was surprised to see the book was written in 2005 It reads as very dated Many of the suggestions seemed geared toward business interactions as well which isn't my area I took a few pointers away from this book but they were mostly seeing aspects of myself in the bad conversation skills section I accept this and can maybe sort of try to do betterAfter reading this book I've come to the realization that I don't really think I'm meant to talk to random people I'm guilty of instantly judging people from the second I see them or am introduced I make a snap decision if the person is worthy of my time or not and I'm usually right A key component to this book's suggestions is to express genuine interest in what other people are talking about and I'm genuinely not interested most of the time Life is too short to suffer through conversations I don't care about If this dooms me to solitude and spinsterhood then I guess that's fine