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eBook Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother

eBook ä Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother Ü Hardcover ¾ hannahredhead ì An awe inspiring often hilarious and unerringly honest story of one mother's exercise in extreme parenting revealing the rewards—and the costs—of raising her children the Chinese wayThis is a story about a mother two daHeir MandarinOf course no one is perfect including Chua herself Witness this sceneAccording to Sophia here are three things I actually said to her at the piano as I supervised her practicing Oh my God you're just getting worse and worse I'm going to count to three then I want musicality If the next time's not PERFECT I'm going to take all your stuffed animals and burn themBut Chua demands as much of herself as she does of her daughters And in her sacrifices the exacting attention spent studying her daughters' performances the office hours lost shuttling the girls to lessons the depth of her love for her children becomes clear Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother is an eye opening exploration of the differences in Eastern and Western parenting and the lessons parents and children everywhere teach one anoth As a mother who has taken a pretty staunchly anti tiger approach to parenting I took this book on as an exercise in cultural literacy I expected my feathers to be ruffled and they were and to be furiously highlighting areas of philosophical difference and I was my Kindle got uite the workout What I didn't expect was a well written memoir with honesty wit and even self deprecation and self uestioning between the lines The author admitted that she wasn't yet sure about 'how it would end' referring literally to the memoir but figuratively to the life and relationship outcomes for her and her girls There were also elements that induced me to think about and acknowledge the tiger parts of myself and the parts of my own parenting that I often struggle to reconcile and I think that my own walk and talk about parenting teaching and learning is enriched as a result

Battle Hymn of the Tiger MotherHeir MandarinOf course no one is perfect including Chua herself Witness this sceneAccording to Sophia here are three things I actually said to her at the piano as I supervised her practicing Oh my God you're just getting worse and worse I'm going to count to three then I want musicality If the next time's not PERFECT I'm going to take all your stuffed animals and burn themBut Chua demands as much of herself as she does of her daughters And in her sacrifices the exacting attention spent studying her daughters' performances the office hours lost shuttling the girls to lessons the depth of her love for her children becomes clear Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother is an eye opening exploration of the differences in Eastern and Western parenting and the lessons parents and children everywhere teach one anoth As a mother who has taken a pretty staunchly anti tiger approach to parenting I took this book on as an exercise in cultural literacy I expected my feathers to be ruffled and they were and to be furiously highlighting areas of philosophical difference and I was my Kindle got uite the workout What I didn't expect was a well written memoir with honesty wit and even self deprecation and self uestioning between the lines The author admitted that she wasn't yet sure about 'how it would end' referring literally to the memoir but figuratively to the life and relationship outcomes for her and her girls There were also elements that induced me to think about and acknowledge the tiger parts of myself and the parts of my own parenting that I often struggle to reconcile and I think that my own walk and talk about parenting teaching and learning is enriched as a result

doc å Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother ☆ Amy Chua

Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother ¿ An awe inspiring often hilarious and unerringly honest story of one mother's exercise in extreme parenting revealing the rewards and the costs of raising her children the Chinese wayThis is a story about a mother two daughters and two dogs This was supposed to be a story of how Chinese parents are better at raising kids than Western ones But instead it's about a bitter clash of cultures a fleeting taste of glory and how I was humbled by a thirteen year old Amy ChuaAll decent parents want to do what's best for their children What Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother reveals is that the Chinese just have a totally different idea of how to do that Western parents try to respect their children's individuality encouraging them to pursue their true passions and providing a nurturing environment The Chinese bel I loved this book This family is so interesting it reads almost like fiction It has been a long time since I could pick up a book and thoroughly enjoy it but this one was a breeze to enjoy It's so entertaining She is funny witty intelligent and I have read a lot of criticism about her parenting style I can understand why people might criticize her but when I have looked deeper into her actions and read the book carefully I see that she is a very caring mother Her style is just different The kids don't feel abused because they know that she loves them otherwise they would not survive the pressure But they do survive and excel The basis is the foundation of their relationship which is not explained in this bookFor example when it was her birthday and her two girls gave her a birthday card that they made themselves she said to them never to give her such a gift that they probably made in minutes Then she retold of how when she was a kid on her mom's birthday she would get up early clean the house and make her mom breakfast When I read this there is no way I can think she is an abusive and mean mom to her kids One child complained that she had to do piano practice that day so she didn't have time and the mom said so you should have gotten up earlier There is strictness no doubt but not mean She is tough but not aggressive or violent She lets her kids express themselves sometimes wildly and aggressively such as when Lulu tears up the music script but the mom doesn't react by beating her as some moms might Instead she buckles down and gets determined to win and teach her child the music piece Why Because as she says she has faith in her kids and knows they can do well She won't let them fail which is what happens to many western parents she says The worst thing she says is to give into the child's frustrations because then you are telling the child that they are right and that they cannot do it Instead she seems to stick with them until they achieve It's several days later since writing the aboveI'm reading it again I love the freshness of her personality the openess the frankness the directness She is such a trooper so much on her plate but she keeps going flying to California for a lunchtime speaking engagement and returning to the east coast the same day She is forever on top of her children making sure they are keeping up with their music practice She includes a script of directions that she gives to Lulu when she isn't there to supervise her This script is so detailed I wonder how long it took her to write it And she says she has hundreds if not thousands of them laying about the house Her passion for life is irresistible I love her honesty in telling the story that led up to her running out of the cafe in Red Suare in St Petersburg in sandals and crying Great stuff I want to hang out with her doc å Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother ☆ Amy Chua

Amy Chua ☆ Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother book

Amy Chua ☆ Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother book Ieve that the best way to protect your children is by preparing them for the future and arming them with skills strong work habits and inner confidence Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother chronicles Chua's iron willed decision to raise her daughters Sophia and Lulu her way the Chinese way and the remarkable results her choice inspiresHere are some things Amy Chua would never allow her daughters to do have a playdate be in a school play complain about not being in a school play not be the #1 student in every subject except gym and drama play any instrument other than the piano or violin not play the piano or violinThe truth is Lulu and Sophia would never have had time for a playdate They were too busy practicing their instruments two to three hours a day and double sessions on the weekend and perfecting t Before I finish reading Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother I would put Totto chan The Little Girl at the Window up as an antidoteLike Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother Totto chan is also a memoir about the upbringing of children mostly focuses on the little girl main character Totto chan but it sends an entirely different message to its readersDisclaimer 1 I'm a Chinese and I had my own taste of strict parenting throughout my childhood but comparing with what Amy Chua's daughters had gone through my experience is really really tamed Disclaimer 2 No please don't think every single pair of Chinese parents raise their kids with Amy Chua's so called Chinese parenting It's misleading I can see that her parenting methods are partly inspired by Chinese culture and practices but it's not the whole pictureDisclaimer 3 I read the Chinese translation of the book not the English textDisclaimer 4 Amy Chua aimed to train her daughters into 'successful' young musicians as soon as the girls were old enough to sit before the piano Honestly I have no idea how young pianists and violinists are supposed to be taught and trained maybe Yo yo Ma had gone through similar treatment when he was a little boy who am I to judgeDisclaimer 5 No I'm not a parentMy reaction to Amy Chua and her parenting methodsLink If I made it a drinking game to down a mouthful of liuor every time I have to suppress my disbelief when reading this book I would be dead before I finishedIf I had to sip down a mouthful of liuor every time Amy Chua screamed at her daughters I would still be dead before I turned the last pageTo be honest I don't think there's anything outstanding about a woman forces her daughters to study and practice Everyone can do this the same like everyone can train animals to obey ordersThe kind of parenting which I would consider to be outstanding and amazing is when parents find their ways to motivate their children to go studying and practicing on their own at their own free willTo make a long story short I'm as outraged by this book as people are outraged by Fifty Shades of GreyWell I might have not been so outraged by Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother if only it's merely a memoir just like Chua has claimed I know Tiger Moms and Tiger Dads exist and I accept that's how some people if not many people treat their children But sadly Chua's claim isn't uite true throughout an entire book she went out of her way to tell you how and why HER parenting method is superior than the other methods Some readers may ask how can you tell her method is superior That's easy look at her daughters Sophia and Lulu haven't both of them turned out to be well mannered highly accomplished young ladies The end justifies the means right Obviously to many people it doesSo why would I have problem with this book Here're some pointsFirst I would like to point out I have problem with how Amy Chua defined 'Chinese parenting' and 'Western parenting' Simply put her definition is misleading at best totally fucked up at worstAccording to Amy Chua 'Chinese parents' are not limited to parents who are ethnically Chinese; white people and Jewish etc can be 'Chinese parents' as well as long as they treated their children according to Chua's methods of 'Chinese parenting'eg making all decision for your kids not allowing them to have any say being strict to them etc etc etc And Chua's so called 'Chinese parenting' is a mixture of Chinese belief and practices the practices of Amy Chua's own parents and Chua's own achievement focused parentingWell then why call it 'Chinese parenting' instead of 'Tiger Mom's parenting' or 'Amy Chua's parenting' This definition of 'Chinese parenting' is just so confusing Hey own up to your own ideas and actions Don't use 'Chinese' as a shieldAs to the so called 'Western parenting' basically Chua gathered all sort of examples for lousy parenting and then labeled them all as 'Western parenting' that's it It looks a bit unfair to me Secondly I want to talk about Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother as a story Our main characters are Amy Chua her husband her two daughters and two family's dogs Supporting Characters being Grandmotherher husband's mother Chua's own parents and sistersThe narrator and main character of this story is Amy Chua herself so don't be surprised when you find Chua went out of her way to make herself the focus of the whole book She had so many things to express she came on so strong to try convincing you that her 'Chinese parenting' is better than the lousy spineless 'Western parenting' to a point that her husband and daughters become very secondary in the book Guess what After reading the whole book I still have no idea what Chua's older daughter Sophia likes and dislikes I only know she is there to practice piano get high grades and be the Perfect Daughter so her mother would be pleased Well I believe this girl actually has a personality but her mother never bothers to present it to us Plus Sophia is no fool she saw right through her mother's halfhearted 'respect' to their Grandmother for what it really wasThankfully Sophia's younger sister Lulu is vivid and three dimensional character she is a fighter she's outspoken than her sister she doesn't like being forced she likes to do things by her own terms she fights back when she is bullied or treated unfairly I admit I adore this girl To be honest I'm not sure I can put up as much a fight as Lulu had done if I were in her position I might long have gone self destructive if I had been dragged through the mud the same way like Amy Chua had done to her kidsAs to Amy Chua's husband I found out he got shove to the background for most of the time Plus I'm surprised that Chua barely appreciates what her husband had done for their kids HOW DARE HIM to let the girls play read story books have outings have fun and just be kids HOW DARE HIM I'm serious Chua gave her husband hardly any credit when their daughters' upbringing is concerned She bragged about how much time and effort she had spent on the girls how much sacrifice she had made for them She downplayed her husband's role she made it sounds like the daddy did nothing but playing and having fun with their daughters; not once did she ever consider perhaps her husband alongside with some of their relatives having the good sense to allow the girls to have fun and simply be children helped the kids to develop further No Chua just has to claim all the credit I learnt that after her book was published Amy Chua claimed her messages have been read out of context but I see that she has only herself to blame it was her who chose to present her daughters' childhood in that way It was her who filled her book with what SHE wants her kids to do what high achievements SHE wants her kids to achieve what SHE thinks is best for her two daughters what sort of expectation SHE wants her kids to meet up with Seriously who else can she blame hereThirdly I want to talk about how Amy had chosen to present herself in her book I found her to be so arrogant so unlikable so self centered so judgmental eg allowing your kid to play drums will make them junkies yo She also loves to brag about her successes she puts people into stereotypes and generalizing different cultures parenting methods and practices in an overly simple and offhand way Remember she's a Yale professor Then why would she views things and measures successes in such a narrow minded way I don't know why Amy Chua also based her moral high ground on the 'Chinese culture and virtues' she presented I admit many of the virtues she had mentioned are accurate but I would like to remind you Amy Chua only shows you a narrowed version of Chinese virtues or presented them out of context in her book There're so many things in Chinese culture and belief system which Chua had ignored to a point that I think she misrepresented Chinese culture a culture she claimed to be oh so familiar with I also found it rather ironic because this woman seems to forget being humble and subtle is a major traditional Chinese virtue as well Instead she spent a lot of time to brag about her shinning career her fine husband and daughters such kind of bragging would be viewed as rude and bad taste in the eyes of many ChinesePlus somehow we're supposed to believe it's okay for Chua to brag about her degree and many successes but at the same time her daughters need to have their ego hammered down non stop Since when it's okay to set up double standards when you're educating your childrenThere's one thing in the Chinese's belief system Chua never bothers to mention balance remember Yin and Yang 's no balance in Chua's mind You either spoil your children into spoiled brats or groom them into obedient little puppets who don't even dare to have a thought of their own Can things ever really be that simple in reality For me the one thing that Amy Chua's book has managed to do is to show me the many shortcomings of the parenting methods which focused upon gaining good grades and achievement which are adopted by many Chinese parents For example Chau mentioned about her days as a student I am not someone who's naturally critical about everything I am not keen to get to the bottom of things I only want to write down everything the professors had said then memorize all theseWell if you planned to educate your children to become some machines to memorize details be my guestNext I want to mention how much I was unable to suppress my disbelief when I read about how Amy Chua put her daughters through so much unnecessary stress and discomfort throughout their childhood No I'm not even talking about her forcing Lulu to practice piano for hours cutting off dinner and bathroom break until the girl could play the piece perfectly Plus I want to make it clear that I don't think there's anything wrong about parents disciplining their kids even parents expecting their kids to get good grades is fine as long as they are being reasonable about it Butfor the life in me does discipline have anything to do with calling your kid 'garbage' What good can come front when you hit your daughter for not holding the violin perfectly What good can it do to interrupt your child's school life and social life to a point she doesn't have friend What kind of mother would ignore her daughter's emotion outburst at the eve of her grandmother's funeral MY GOODNESS I can't see why being a total jerk to your kids and bully them would be viewed as ideal parenting I just don't understand and I need to tell you I hate bullies I hate bullies even when they are some people else's parentssighs It's not like I can't see where Chua's ideology if you can call it that came from as immigrants Chua's own parents needed to work extra hard in order to get a head start in America so they taught their children to focus on achievements and making their way to the top of the food chains with hard work and extraordinary performance All of these are understandable really But it's uite ironic that in the end even said parents have the good sense to realize time has changed and their parenting method is not suitable to every child whilst Chau ignored their advice and kept demanding her daughters to be 'perfect' sighsMy suggestion Well please brace yourself and prepare for disbelief disgust and eyes rolling if you ever decided to read this book Just to light the mood let me tell you a little storyOnce upon a time there was a boy in Japan whose parents were music teacher and musician of classical music; said parents wanted their son to be a classical musician as well so they arranged for him to practice violinLater the boy grew up but instead of becoming a violinist he dyed his hair learnt to play a guitar and joined a rock band Need not to mention his parents protested against his choices bitterly for they honestly thought rock n' roll was garbageBut the boy now an adult still played violin for some of his band's songsArticle about the basic problems which come with Chinese parenting here's someone else's excellent remark on the book